Love is all about giving, giving yourself to the one you love. Giving involves your entire life. It is about surrendering in order to make the one you love happy. Many married people are generous to everybody _except_ their spouses. There are ten things your spouse need from you DAILY. NOT weekly, monthly or annually, but daily.
1. Give your spouse A TOUCH:
One of the ways to bond with your spouse is to give him or her a touch. There is the encouragement touch, affirmation touch, healing touch, apology touch and sexual touch. Study your spouse and know what touch to give at different times. Don’t let today end without touching your spouse.
2. Give your spouse SPACE:
As much as you need to bond with your spouse and be together for daily intimacy, communication, affection, planning, etc., yet, you need to give your spouse his/her space. There is time for couples prayers, time for couples bonding. Also there is time for personal prayer, personal meditation, personal rest, personal planing, etc. Don’t choke your spouse. Don’t be over-possessive and over demanding to your spouse. Stop unnecessary policing and monitoring.
3: Give your spouse a CALL/CHAT:
Some people can chat with all the contacts on their phones & all their friends on Facebook. But they will never chat or call their spouse throughout the day. Chatting or calling your spouse is a way of saying, ‘Dear, despite my busy schedule, I have you in mind. I am thinking about you’. Make sure you send a chat, or give a call to your spouse today. Make it a daily thing. No body can be tired of receiving a caring chat or a call from someone they love.
4: Give your spouse a HUG:
Hugging is fast disappearing in many marriages today. It has been researched that, hugging is one of the emotional needs of every human being. It is scarcity of spousal hug that makes many men to hug ladies who are not their wives indiscriminately. Many women too crave for hugs and they allow every Tom and Jerry to hug them because their husbands are not hugging them. Let no day pass without hugging your spouse. It is one valuable thing you must give your spouse. It could be a welcoming hug, a goodbye hug, an appreciating hug, affirmative hug. Hugging is a non verbal means of communication. Use it well. Don’t let your husband or wife crave for hug from strangers when you are still alive. Hug passionately! Hug romantically.
5. Give your spouse a SMILE:
A smile is a way of telling your him/her, ‘You delight me’, ‘Your presence amuses me’, ‘I am pleased with you’. Frown less. One of the ways to know your marriage is SMELLING is when you are not SMILING with each other. Smile. It is one of the best gifts you can give your spouse in a day. Be generous with your smile. It is free. Just relax your muscles and smile. Keep your marriage from smelling, keep smiling.
6: Give your spouse PEACE OF MIND:
The home is the end-point of every thing we do daily. Let me explain it this way. If you are a doctor, you can’t sleep in the hospital all the days of your life. You will need to come home. If you are an engineer, you can’t sleep on site all day. Even as a pastor, you can’t be in the Church 24/7. We all must go back home. Home is the end point. So, if your spouse will be excited to come home, it must be a peaceful home. Stop nagging, fighting, insulting, abusing, threatening, and humiliating your spouse. Give him rest of mind. Give your wife rest of mind. Be the head of your wife sir, not the headache of your wife. Madam, be a wife , and not a ‘knife’ to your husband. Blessed are couples that give each other peace of mind daily!
7: Give him/her a LISTENING EAR:
Whenever you are with your partner Give him/her a listening ear in every discussion you engage in even when it seems to you that the conversation is irrelevant, ignoring him/her makes them feel bad as if they are worthless and can’t add meaningful value to the relationship. Always find things to bring in to the marriage in order not to make the marriage boring. Marriage is sweet when you feed in the right ingredient in it.
8: Let them know they Make you Happy
Of course you’re happy with your spouse, but how often do you actually verbalize that? Letting them know how they make you feel has lasting benefits. Even if it’s just “I love how you make me laugh,” you’re showing them that you value the relationship and the fact that he or she is part of your life.
9: Compliment your spouse
If you don’t compliment your spouse, how can you expect them to feel appreciated or wanted? Even if you tend to see the no-makeup or sweats-wearing version of your partner way more often than the all-dolled-up one, it’s very important to let your spouse know that you’re just as attracted to them today as you were in the beginning. This will make them feel confident and amazing as they go about their day. We all like to feel sexy and desirable, so if your spouse still gives you those warm and tingly feelings inside, let them know! Even just flirting with them or having some playful banter will do wonders for your relationship
10: Give your spouse a PRAYER:
No matter how wealthy or highly connected you are, there are things you can not do for your spouse. You are limited. One of the ways to show love to your him/her is to commit them to the unlimited God. Say a word of prayer to your spouse daily. Every other thing may fail, But no force can withstand the power of prayer.
You can’t heal your spouse, only God can heal him/her. You cant lengthen the days of your spouse. Only God can do that. You can’t save your him/her. You can’t take away addiction and evil habits from them , only God can do that for him/her. Pray to God. Mention the name of your husband/wife to God. As a man, you are the priest of your family, lay your hands on your wife, or hold her hands and say a word of prayer to her life. It is a major gift many couples find so difficult to give each other. Blessed is that wife whose husband gives a gift of prayer daily.
Pray for your spouse if you don’t want him/her to become a prey in the hand of the devil.
All these ten things are very easy to give, simple to do, free and important. Put them on your ‘to-do-list’ daily. Remember, _givers never lack_ .